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Islamic
Wedding
Wedding of Fatimah (RadhiAllah Anha)
Fatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) is the youngest daughter of
our beloved Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam). Out
of all the children, he was the most beloved to him. He
said, 'The Queen of the ladies in Jannat is Faatimah.'
He also said, 'Faatimah is part of my body. Whoever
grieves her, grieves me.'
When Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) reached the age of
fifteen, proposals for her marriage began to come from
high and responsible families. But the Prophet (Sallallaahu
Álayhi Wasallam) remained irresponsive.
Ali (Radhiallaahu Ánhu), who was 21 at the time, says:
It occurred to me that I should go and make a formal
proposal, but then I thought, |
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'How could
this be accomplished, for I possess nothing.'
At last, encouraged by the Prophet's kindness, I
went to him and expressed my intention to marry
Faatima (Radhiyallaahu Anha). The Prophet (Sallallaahu
Álayhi Wasallam) was extremely pleased and asked, 'Áli!
Do you possess anything to give her in Mahr?' I
replied, 'Apart from a horse and an armour I possess
nothing.'The Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)
said, 'A soldier must, of course, have his horse. Go
and sell away your armour.'
So, Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) went and sold his armour
to Uthmaan (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) for 480 Dirham and
presented it to Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi
Wasallam). Bilaal (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) was ordered by
the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) to bring
some perfume and a few other things and Anas (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu) was sent to call Abu Bakr, Uthmaan, Talhah,
Zubayr with some companions from the Ansaar (Radhiallaahu
Ánhum).
When these men arrived and had taken their seats,
the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) recited
the Khutbah (sermon) of Nikaah and gave Faatimah (Radhiallaahu
Ánha) in marriage to Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu). He
announced, 'Bear you all witness that I have given
my daughter Faatimah in marriage to Áli for 400
Mithqaal of silver and Áli has accepted.' He then
raised his head and made Duá saying, 'O Allah,
create love and harmony between these two. Bless
them and bestow upon them good children.' after the
Nikaah, dates were distributed.
When the time came for Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha)
to go to Áli's (Radhiallaahu Ánhu) house, she was
sent without any clamour, hue and cry accompanied
Umm Ayman (Radhiallaahu Ánhu). After the Éesha
Salaat, the Prophet (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)
went to their house, took permission and entered. He
asked for a basin of water, put his blessed hands
into it and sprinkled it on both Áli (Radhiallaahu
Ánhu) and Faatimah (Radhiallaahu Ánha) and made Duá
for them.
The sovereign of both worlds gave his beloved
daughter a silver bracelet, two Yemeni sheets, four
mattresses, one blanket, one pillow, one cup, one
hand-grinding mill, one bedstead, a small water skin
and a leather pitcher.
In this simple fashion, the wedding of the daughter
of the leader of the worlds was solemnised. In
following this Sunnah method, a wedding becomes very
simple and easy to fulfill.
SOME METHODS DERIVED FROM
THE ABOVEMENTIONED MARRIAGE.
1. The
many customs as regards engagement are contrary to
the Sunnah. In fact, many are against the Shariáh
and are regarded sins. A verbal proposal and answer
is sufficient.
2. To
unnecessarily delay Nikah of both the boy and the
girl after having reached the age of marriage is
incorrect.
3. There
is nothing wrong in inviting one's close associates
for the occasion of Nikah. However, no special pains
should be taken in gathering the people from far off
places.
4. It is
appropriate that the bridegroom be a few years older
than the bride.
5. If the
father of the girl is an Áalim or pious and capable
of performing Nikah, then he should himself
solemnise the marriage.
6. It is
better to give the Mahr Faatimi and one should
endeavour to do so. But if one does not have the
means then there is nothing wrong in giving less.
7. It is
totally un-Islamic for those, who do not possess the
means, to incur debts in order to have grandiose
weddings.
8. It is
fallacy to think that one's respect will be lost if
one does not hold an extravagant wedding and invite
many people. What is our respect compared to that of
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam)?
9. The
present day practice of the intermingling of sexes
is an act of sin and totally against Shariáh.
10. There
is nothing such as engagement parties and Medhi
parties in Islam.
11. Great
care must be taken as regards to Salaat on occasions
of marriage by all - the bride, the bridegroom and
all the participants.
12. It is
un-Islamic to display the bride on stage.
13. The
unnecessary expenses incurred by the bride's family
in holding a feast has no basis in Shariáh.
14. For
the engaged couple to meet at a public gathering
where the boy holds the girl's hand and slips a ring
on her finger is a violation of the Qurãnic law of
Hijaab.
15. It is
un-Islamic for the engaged couple to meet each other
and also go out together.
16. Three
things should be borne in mind when giving one's
daughter gifts and presents at the time of Nikah:
·Presents should be given within one's means (it is
not permissible to take loans, on interest for such
presents);
·To give necessary items;
· A show should not be made of whatever is given.
17. It
is Sunnat for the bridegroom's family to make
Walimah.
Note: In Walimah,
whatever is easily available should be fed to the
people and care should be taken that the is no
extravagance, show and that no debts are incurred in
the process.
18. To delay Nikah after the engagement is
un-Islamic.
SOME CUSTOMS
In aping Western methods sheepishly, Muslims have
adopted many customs which are un-Islamic and
frowned upon.
Some examples are:
1. Displaying
the bride on stage;
2.
Inviting guests for the wedding from far off places;
3.
Receiving guests in the hall;
4. The
bride's people incurring unnecessary expenses by
holding a feast which has no basis in Shariáh. We
should remember that Walimah is the feast arranged
by the bridegroom after the marriage is consummated.
5. It is contrary to Sunnah (and the
practice of some non-Muslim tribes in India) to
wish, hope for or demand presents and gifts for the
bridegroom, from the bride's people. We should
always remember that our Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi
Wasallam) did not give Áli (Radhiallaahu Ánhu)
anything except Duá. |
