Even the smartest, most on-top-of-things
couple can make mistakes during wedding planning.
Here are the 10 things you should keep an eye on
before saying I do.
1. Blowing off your budget
It costs a lot of money to put on
a wedding. Many excited brides start booking vendors
and making purchases without having a real budget,
and then they're shocked to discover they've spent
all of their money (or their parents' money) and
still don't have half the things they need.If you
bounce checks, don't have the money to pay your
deposits, or make your final payments past your
vendors' deadlines, your wedding will not happen
as you have planned. The flowers won't be delivered,
your cake will not be decorated, and the band will
not play all night -- unless you pay up. Planning
a wedding is serious business. Make a budget and
keep track of your expenditures.
2. Ordering
the wedding gown and/or bridesmaid dresses late
If going for a traditional
bridal gown, brides need to place their orders six
to eight months before their weddings. Most gowns
are made to order; if you wait too long before your
wedding date to make your selection, the gown
simply may not be ready in time. Bridesmaid dresses
should also be decided upon during the same time
period, but only after the gown has been selected.
You want to make sure your ladies have enough time
to get measured and find accessories.
3. Procrastinating
on that prenuptial...
It is a reality these days that
people -- even brides -- have assets they want to
protect. (This is particularly prevalent now that
there are so many second marriages where a bride
or groom may have children to whom they want their
assets to go in case of death.) Leaving the discussion
of a prenuptial agreement until the week before
the wedding is a sure-fire way to increase the stress
level by ten thousand percent -- and endanger the
impending marriage.
4. Messing up
the marriage license
There are so many rules around marriage
licenses that brides are bound to make mistakes.
Be sure to investigate time restrictions well in
advance of your wedding date. Get your license 31
days before in some states -- and you won't be able
to legally marry on your wedding day because it
may be valid for only 30 days. Go for your license
the day before your wedding and you may not get
it in time, because some states have a 48-hour waiting
period. Another common mess-up if you're remarrying
is not having official divorce papers in time to
get the certificate.
5. Booking guest
hotel rooms too late
Brides often leave blocking out
hotel rooms for out-of-town guests until the last
minute. If you're marrying in a city (particularly
one where conventions take place) or in a resort
town and you don't investigate hotel availability
in advance, you can literally end up with not a
single room for any of your guests to stay in. Your
wedding might go on -- but no one will be able to
attend. Reserve a room block as early as possible,
up to a year in advance.
6. Inviting too
many guests
Make sure your guest list and your
reception site match numbers-wise. You can't invite
400 people assuming only 250 will RSVP with a yes
-- because if 300 happen to say yes, you may have
to turn 50 away at the door. Sites can't just add
10 more tables, as fire laws limit the maximum number
of people in any room at one time. To avoid this,
assume eighty percent will respond yes and limit
your guest list accordingly.
7. Last-minute
beauty blunders
Many brides think that scheduling
chemical peels the week before their weddings will
leave their skin looking angelic on their big days.
Others think having their teeth bleached within
days of their weddings will leave those pearly whites
sparkling. Thinking of tanning the day before your
wedding? Think again: You may end up with blisters
instead of sun-kissed skin. Last-minute beauty treatments
can lead to breakouts, mistakes, or -- even worse
-- serious infections. Start a long-term beauty
regimen months before the big day and focus on natural
and common-sense measures such as eating a healthy
diet and exercising, or you could risk ruining all
the hard work you've done to make your wedding --
and photos -- perfect. (Never mind putting your
health and happiness at risk for the most important
day of your life.)
8. Underpaying
postage on invites
You'd be surprised how many brides
just stick a stamp on their invites and drop them
in a letterbox. All but a few wedding invitations
require additional postage. The postal service will
not take pity on you -- your invites will be returned
(and rubber-stamped with that ugly "insufficient
postage" message) -- and it will take at least two
weeks (never mind the additional $$) to get them
back out the door. Be sure to get one complete invitation
weighed at the post office before purchasing all
your stamps.
9. Ignoring religious
restrictions
If you plan on marrying in a house
of worship, you need to abide by the rules. Wearing
inappropriate attire or not completing pre-wedding
requirements is grounds for your officiant to stop
your wedding before it begins. As soon as you get
engaged, be sure to contact your house of worship
to find out about any potential issues. Some houses
of worship won't let you marry on certain holy dates;
make sure to check your wedding date with your officiant
before putting down any deposits for your reception
site or vendors.
10. Ignoring
weather warnings
Brides marrying outdoors often test
fate and just wish for the best when it comes to
bad weather. Always have a backup plan -- you may
not have a place to marry at all, or your guests
(and you) may be in misery at the hands of Mother
Nature. Temperatures normally around the balmy 70-degree
mark may unexpectedly turn into a boiling 100-degree
debacle; be sure to have outdoor air-conditioning.
A hurricane, flashflood, or gale force winds may
visit on your wedding day; make sure you have an
interior alternative or a tent as a back-up location.