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Westernized
Muslim Marriages of Today! |
The Western Whirlwind
of Destruction which has been constantly blowing across
this country for decades and undermining the morals
of the Youth, of more recent times has found new victims
in young men Muslim men and women who appear to be
voluntarily stepping into its evil path. And whilst
this "Tornado of the West" is leaving in its wake
a continuous trail of crushed moral values amongst
our young brothers and sisters, the parents are openly
and unashamedly displaying an attitude of incredible
irresponsibility by aiding and abetting the youngsters
in their suicidal ventures.
Clear evidence of this gross misbehavior can be found,
for instance, at Muslim weddings and engagement parties
where the type of conduct reminiscent of the western
way of life is fully exercised in its most naked form,
where Muslim men and women, boys and girls, act and
do things that have nothing in common with the actions
and doings of true Muslims. Indeed, some of the formalities
which are considered indispensable (by modern standards)
at these gatherings are in diametric conflict with
Islam and reminiscent of the times of jahiliyyah (ignorance).
Notwithstanding the fact that western-styled garments
are designed primarily to emphasize the shape of the
female body and to attract the attention of members
of the opposite sex, these immodest apparels are worn
by Muslim women who, in anticipation of the opportunity
to show themselves off at impending weddings or engagements,
start making preparations on a lavish scale by acquiring
the more "modern" versions of these abominably
styled clothing. What is even more deplorable is the
practice of equipping the bride with several of these
immodestly designed suits, and subjecting her to a
most humiliating display on an elaborately prepared
stage after clothing her in an exquisite western wedding
gown and obliterating all her natural beauty with
western cosmetics. And to ensure perfection in the
scrupulously observed rituals of the west, the bride
is provided with a retinue of bridesmaids, flower-girls
and page-boy, with their faces similarly disfigured
with the same satanic object of attracting the maximum
of lustful stares. Crowds of people, including fashionably
dressed men, are then allowed to queue up to see the
"puppet show" and quench their unholy thirsts
whilst trampling under their feet all Islamic standards
of modesty.This slaughter of Islamic morals and principles
by no means ends here. Some parents even go further
and not only permit but actively encourage couples
to meet and speak, dine and dance and roam around
together in cars in blatant violation of the Sunnah
of the Holy Prophet (S.A.W.). These extremely dangerous
divergences from traditional Islamic precepts are
becoming more and more common, and their perpetrators
more and more shameless. In some Muslim weddings,
even dancing forms part of these revolting innovations.
In the words of Dr E.S. Sonners, ".....social dancing
is fundamentally sinful and evil.....It is nothing
more or less than damnable, diabolical, animal, physical
dissipation". It is not certainly not beyond one's
imagination to think of the lustful gazes and corruption
of the minds of young, impressionable audiences which
such diabolical displays are bound to cause. And as
an ironical prelude, some invitation cards printed
to advertise these most insidious and sinful programmes
are headed: "In the Name of Allah.......". What a
mockery of Islamic ethics!The following are some of
the practices that are meticulously carried out during
matrimonial affairs despite the fact that they are
either expressly forbidden in Shariah, or have no
bases in Islam:
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The
engaged couple meet at a public gathering where
the boy holds the girl's hand and slips a ring
onto her finger whilst the two look romantically
at each other. This act is void of modesty and
completely foreign to Islamic culture. It is furthermore,
a flagrant violation of the Quranic Law of Purdah.
It is an evil innovation of the godless west ,
and those indulging in it should take cognizance
of the Prophet's stern warning that "those who
imitate others will rise on the Day of Judgment
as of them".
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The
prohibition in Islam of the gathering and free
mixing of the sexes is nowhere else more flagrantly
violated than at engagement and wedding feasts.
Members of both sexes, young and old, are accommodated
in the same tent or hall without so much as a
curtain partition between them and to add insult
to injury, women, including immodestly dressed
young spinsters, are waited upon by men. What
shameless impudence on the part of the organizers,
who appear to be blissfully unaware of the tremendous
responsibility which they must shoulder for the
resultant decline in the moral standard of the
Muslims.
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Another
very indecent practice copied from the west is
the appearance on the stage together of the married
couple after the Nikah. Here, the new husband
presents his bride with a wedding ring, kisses
her, and then (in a growing number of cases) allows
his friends to kiss her too! and that in full
view of the hundreds of guests! This is indeed
the total and tragic destruction of Islamic modesty
and shame.
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It
has become a normal thing at Muslim weddings for
the bridegroom to appear before his mother-in-law
to be showed with confetti and gifts of rings,
ties, hankies, etc. in full view of women guests
whose envious eyes and flattering tongues add
to the morbidity of the whole act.
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The
parents take great pride in making a public display
of the bride's "trousseau", and advertising all
the individual items therein, thus wasting valuable
time and effort which could otherwise have been
more fruitfully spent in teaching the bride how
to conduct herself with credit in her new responsibilities.
This show (of the "trousseau") is motivated by
the spiritually destructive elements of "riya"(ostentation)
and "takabbur"(pride).
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A
large number of Nikah are performed in a specially
rented hall or tent. The Mosque as a central pivot
of all Muslim religious activity is often ignored.
It is no exaggeration to say that many people
regard a Nikah at the Musjid as "inconvient" simply
because they are well aware that some of their
ill-conceived western rituals are too shameless
to be permitted there. However, according to the
Tradition of the Prophet(S.A.W.) marriages performed
in the House of Allah, immediately preceded and
followed by prayers, will attract the maximum
of Allah's Blessings, whereas this is not, and
cannot, be the case where alternative venues are
chosen with the express purpose of facilitating
the performance of things Un-Islamic.
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Many
people are known to be labouring under the misconception
that the conduction of marriages on certain specific
Islamic dates is contrary to Islamic Law. Such
beliefs are not only unfounded, but are also against
the grain of common sense. Likewise, the notion
that it is incumbent upon the bride to spend her
first Ramadaan and Eid after marriage at the parents'
home has no basis in Islam.
In recent years, more and more innovatory and satanic
western practices have been added by the Muslim commercial
elites whose coffers are bursting at the seams as
a result of the inflationary trends and economic booms
of the past decade. Among these are the European-orientated
fashions of printing expensive, pictorially-embossed
"thank you" cards, and, more despicably, the insidious
practice of a male member of the family escorting
the bride arm-in-arm from the comparative seclusion
of her home, through the mixed crowd of envious guests,
right on to the stage for the ultimate "puppet" show,
and all these farcical and morbid, soul-destroying
scenes being "shot" for posterity by specially appointed
and professionally equipped "video and photography"
teams, with a fully fledged and "high ranking" musical
band in close attendance! Within the self-same decade,
the progressive deterioration of the bride's wedding-day
garments from bad to worse in the very latest and
obnoxious "see-thru" materials has been causing grave
misgivings among the Ulama , many of whom are known
to have turned down invitations from close acquaintances
for fear of being confronted with scenes too shameless
to comprehend. Several more instances can be cited
where a great deal of expense and trouble are incurred
over acts that are counter-productive of Islamic ethical
and moral values. It is a tragic fact that each year
hundreds of thousands of Ranks are squandered in the
process of upholding and intensifying these senseless,
soul-destroying procedures."Lo! the squanderers were
ever brothers of the devils, and the devil was ever
an ingrate to his Lord." (xvii-27) "The best of marriage
is one over which the least trouble and expense have
been incurred" is a most off-flouted maxim of the
Holy Prophet(S.A.W.). The Great Master's sound teachings
have been thoughtlessly and savagely thrown overboard
and substituted by the fast-decaying cultural values
of the godless west.Someone was heard to remark at
a recent wedding reception: "Here is part of the reason
for the drought....and for escalating Muslim divorce
rate....(to heights unknown in previous generations)....and
for the downward plunge of the Muslims.... into the
abyss of physical and spiritual destruction....in
this world and the next......"May Allah grant Hidaayat,
to one and all! Aameen |
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