Proposing
to you girl friend is the most important thing in
a man's life. This is a question that brings immense
joy and excitement in your life. This moment is cherished
all your life and therefore this moment has to be
special. Now before you get down on one knee, read
these dos and don'ts of proposing.
DO's:
Do Talk about Marriage
Before
you propose, talk about the possibility of getting
married. Make sure it's something that you both
want.
Do
make it a Surprise
Even
though you have discussed marriage, the proposal
itself should still be a surprise. Find a moment
and a way that is special and she should not be
expecting it. Remember it should be a surprise.
Do
Find the Right Engagement Ring
Since
wearing an engagement ring is a lifetime commitment,
make sure it's the right style. If you think its
difficult choosing the right ring yourself, you
can also ask her mother or best friend to help choose
the ring.
Do Take Elders Blessings
It
is always better to take the consent of both the
parents. Therefore before you pop the question,
make sure that you have spoken to her and your parents
about it.
Do
Pick a Personal Spot
Think
about your favorite romantic places -- choose a
romantic spot to pop the question. Just make sure
that it is a special spot and this is your personal
moment.
Do Be Creative
Incorporate
your personality, favorite things, foods etc. into
the proposal. Make it memorable and something to
cherish the rest of your lives.
Do Drop to one knee
It's
not 1950, but there is something so charming and
romantic about a man on one knee asking the love
of his life to marry him. Even if you're not a traditional
guy, it will add to the seriousness and lovingness
of the proposal.
Do Tell Her Why You Want to Marry Her
Don't
just utter those 4 little words, tell her why she's
the one for you, what marriage means to you, and
what your hopes for the future are. Make her feel
special and great about the relationship and the
future ahead.
DON'Ts:
Don't Make it Public
Please
don't propose to her in a public place. Make it
intimate and a personal thing. The moment belongs
to you therefore this magical moment should be between
just the two of you – after all, you've got the
rest of your lives to tell other people about your
marriage but you've only got one engagement moment.
Don't Propose on a holiday
Consider
picking a day meaningful to your relationship, such
as the anniversary of your first date. Your girlfriend
wants her day to shine – don't propose on a holiday
that can't be yours as a couple.
Don't Hide the Engagement Ring in Food
I
hate to say it, (as I'm sure there are some readers
who were planning to do just this) but hiding the
engagement ring in food is a tired idea. It's been
in a thousand movies and TV shows, and you won't
win any points for creativity. Even worse, you may
end your romantic proposal with a trip to the emergency
room or the dentist.
Don't Do it in Front of Her Family
Its
one thing to take blessings of her parents but don't
make the mistake of proposing in their presence.
Proposals in front of family have an added level
of stress that you don't need. Take this moment
to be just the two of you; don't worry, you can
call everyone immediately afterwards.
Don't Propose if you are not sure
This
is an important decision of your life. Therefore
first think whether you are ready for marriage and
responsibility and then propose to her. Also get
to know what she feels too.
Don't Expect Her to say Yes Immediately
You're
asking someone to spend the rest of their life with
you – an extremely important decision. Just because
you've asked, doesn't mean she is ready to say yes.
If your sweetheart says maybe, take it in stride
and give her some time to consider the proposal.