Approaching
women is not that tough as you think. You just need
confidence and should know to use the right words.
Here are a few things you should know before approaching
the girl you just met and you are attracted to.
1.
The
first most important thing is to take it easy. If
you get all jittery and scared and think that if
you don't get this girl, it is going to be the end
of your life, then you will never really get to
know her. So be cool and don't overstep your bounds.
If you succeed, its great and if not then move on.
Don't care about the outcome so much that it will
make you nervous and you will spoil every chance
that you ever had.
2.
Be confident.
People show confidence (or lack of it) in a thousand
small ways; your posture, the way you talk, a lack
of waiver in your voice, eye contact, body position,
placement of the hands, etc., etc. All of these
are critical and create an impression. Your impression
should always be one of confidence.
3.
Smile. This is the best part. Your smile can mean
a lot. Smiles can easily look like nervousness.
Therefore you need to know how good your smile is.
You should practice this in front of the mirror
until you feel comfortable with it and until it
looks natural.
4.
Take the conversation somewhere. Pickup lines are
no good and will take you nowhere. Your conversation
should be intelligent and meaningful. That doesn't
mean that you start discussing politics or football
with her. You're trying to get to know the woman
in the quickest, most direct way possible. Thus,
get her talking about herself! Use this as a discovery
of both who she is, and what you need to do to move
the conversation on.
5.
Listen to her. This is an important part of the
conversation. Just don't keep talking on and on.
You need to listen to what she says and focus on
her. Look into her eyes.
6.
Close.
You have to ask for what you want. Don't wait for
her to do the thing for you. Far too many men expect
the woman to close for them; waiting for her to
give you her number. Instead, you need to be the
one to ask for it. Then, when you do, be direct,
calm, confident, and don't ask her - tell her. Say
something like, "Here, write your home phone
number down on this paper and I'll call you sometime
to continue this conversation."
7.
Leave!
You always want to be the one to end the conversation.
Don't over-stay your welcome. Close, and make your
exit.